You need to ask yourself some questions: What do they like to do on a daily basis? How do they get around town? What do they like to eat? Starting with a look at the small things may help you put the bigger picture together. It's important not to just give up either when you something isn't going the way you like. Take time to absorb what's going on, and if you don't like it, you don't have to do it. But the key is always to respect the other person's perspective! Only by putting yourself in someone else's shoes, will you learn more about them and even yourself!
